Change can feel scary even if you are working towards positive growth.
Being human is wonderful but can present us with complicated emotions and conflicting worldviews based on who we are, where we've been and past conditioning.
Collectively we all want to move forward together harmoniously so why does it feel so challenging? All evolution is essentially a culmination of working through differences to achieve a result that works for all. While we strive to be as stress free or simplistic as possible, true change takes concerted effort.
Trust that while you are actively pursuing positive changes in life, no justification is needed for putting yourself first. One must do so in order to truly help others. Your decision to create positive and lasting change takes courage. Read on to learn more about how compassion can help you embrace change with courage. Ultimately if we all practiced compassion with ourselves and each other, we will all be able to get further ahead in life, together.
Acknowledge your humanness and capacity to change.
Little changes and big changes can stir up a melange of thoughts, feelings and ideas. Some changes happen effortlessly, some we can't control and other times we may simply need a nudge. Change needn't be scary but it does require patience with yourself and a willingness to shed your skin and adapt too.
During times of change, we can sometimes overlook how our emotions may be impacted. If not addressed regularly, there can be a natural tendency to compartmentalize and suppress emotions. If you're not in tune and those sensitive areas are triggered, you may experience psychological awakenings and physical catharsis.
Once you work through your feelings, you may feel confused with changing your patterns because you were comfortable and familiar with a way of life that used to serve you.
However, you must remove remnants of former programming that may be holding you back from asserting yourself or going after what you want. Subconsciously you may be carrying outdated ways of thinking and behaving in ways that no longer work for the new you.
Compassion and gentleness are critical especially in times of change.
Recognize and understand that you are human too. One must extend the tenderness and thoughtfulness to themselves, that they give so freely to others in times of need. Sometimes when life is not completely clear, it's perfectly normal to be confused or cautious and not understand why things have to change.
Forgive yourself as well for any negative thoughts you may have with change. Sometimes we hold attachments to what others may have wanted or projected for us and it's not our responsibility to carry someone else's notions with us. It's okay to let go without attaching guilt, shame or worry to your former self!
Once you acknowledge that change is constant, you can start to develop a healthier and positive association with change. This will allow you to adapt to situations of all kinds easier and remove attachment from outcomes.
If you find yourself in situations where it may be difficult for you to cope, you can begin to diffuse the situation and ease your mind.
We are spirits in a human experience so we must align ourselves mentally, physically, and emotionally for optimal balance.
Always start your day with a moment of pause & clarity ~ for it allows you to practice compassion with yourself & others.
1) Indulge in moments of stillness with a thoughtful meditation sequence or mantra which can be a simple as a few lines that speak to you.
~ Take time to reflect on this present moment and enjoy the bounty of this moment. Quiet your mind and connect with your inner wisdom. Allow the gentleness of your heart to radiate through your entire being ~
2) Take time to sit with your emotions. Forgive yourself if something didn't turn out the way you thought it would in your head - due to any choice you did or didn't make - from choosing what to wear or what to eat for dinner to bigger life decisions or directions in relationships, career, and which city or home to live in.
3) Channel your thoughts and emotions into healthy creative outlets that allow you to express yourself authentically- music, dance, working out, writing, painting or drawing.
4) Talk to a friend or therapist - processing changes of all kinds need to be brought to light allowing the energy to be transmuted for closure of a cycle. Even in the continuation of small changes within bigger cycles, it's important to honor each cycle of time and passage so we are prepared for bigger milestones and can move forward confidently.
5) Eat clean - sometimes what we eat can have triggering effects and may even make us irritable if we have something that may not actually agree with our bodies. Cumulative effects of caffeine, carbs or dairy can wreak havoc on sensitive systems causing your body to be inflamed. If our insides are screaming, we will lose mental clarity and emotional awareness. Choose healthy options over indulgences that you may regret or practice moderation mindfully.
6) Review your chakras. Scan your body from your crown chakra down to your root to assess if there are any imbalances or areas to focus on to stretch out or attend to.
7) Exercise- moving stagnant stuck energy helps to also recalibrate the senses. Often times we just need to shake our groove thang. We are energy in motion after all as emotional beings. Go for a brisk walk, jog, lift weights, dance or do any kind of healthy activity with yourself, partner or group.
8) You can also try other activities to relieve any residual pressure or trapped emotional pockets. Humans hold a lot of their memories or tension in the body so sometimes we're carrying old stories around with us and can release them to feel lighter! You can try acupuncture, reiki, breathwork, flotation therapy and the sauna for other ways to activate healing of your physical body.
When we take small but powerful steps towards change by embracing positivity and harnessing compassion for ourselves we begin to flourish.
Try the above out and let me know what resonates best with you and how you feel.
xoxo,
TC